At the moment she's carrying his spirit with her grief metaphysically. Consider it a bit of gallows humor. Kind of like the idea that psychologists and religious leaders can only help you with your 84th problem... which is that you have 83 other problems.
Supposedly, one develops their coping skills without being given tools, by paying someone who has the tools but won't share, coach, and/or teach, unless you get it through empathy or cognitive complexity. That's why young masters are called grasshoppers... they don't gather with the ants.